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Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy: Why Women Settle for One-Sided Relationships

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    Jill P. Weber(Author)

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Finding lasting love and intimacy can be difficult for many women. Some end up agreeing to sexual relationships hoping that they may lead to longer, more fulfilling relationships, only to be let down when they don't. Here, Jill Weber explains why women feel forced into a male model of dating that barters sex for the unrealistic hope that it will lead to emotional intimacy. What it leads to for the woman, most often, is disappointment, despair, and impaired self-esteem. "Sextimacy," as Weber terms it, traps women in relationships that are one-sided and lack emotional intimacy. When this happens, women routinely blame themselves instead of realizing they should blame their romantic strategy. This book, in a step-by-step progression, shows a better way to break the cycle and cultivating better relationships. It teaches women how to recognize when they are in a Sextimacy event as opposed to the beginning of a mutually fulfilling relationship that won't leave them racked with morning-after regrets. And it gives clear direction about what women can do to find warm romantic partnerships that serve their needs. Using real stories from women of various ages and stages of life, Weber shows how patterns of behavior may develop that produce a vulnerability to being used. Starting in childhood and proceeding through the crucial teen years, she illustrates the factors that may go into this limited approach to cultivating romantic relationships, and provides clear tips on how to stop. Including a series of self-assessments, the book offers women insight into the patterns that rob them of the opportunities to grow and to fulfill their emotional needs. Anyone struggling to break the cycle of having sex without the attendant intimacy they crave will find in these pages a warm and ready approach to finding love and fulfillment.

Jill Weber eloquently explains how many women end up ashamed of some of their greatest strengths and guides the reader through the process of turning this around. Her book will be helpful to women who would like to be more mindful and self-aware in their intimate relationships and to others who want to better understand women who seem troubled by their relationship patterns.--Matthew D. Johnson, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology, Binghamton UniversityJill Weber has written an engaging and thought-provoking book that will stimulate many women to ponder their relationships with men and with their own bodies.--Karen Prager, professor of psychology and gender studies, The University of Texas at DallasWhere has this book been? For years we've needed someone to directly address the pseudo-liberation that passes for authentic autonomy and pseudo-intimacy that can block the option of genuine vulnerability. The sad truth that women feel compelled to accept male defined approaches to sexuality requires discussion and Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy will now offer that possibility. Hopefully this book opens a watershed dialogue - among women, within relationships, and throughout our culture-at-large. The reflection and change that will likely result is long overdue.--Kent Hoffman, Rel.D., Psychology of Intimacy, Gonzaga University

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  • PDF | 246 pages
  • Jill P. Weber(Author)
  • Rowman & Littlefield Publishers; 1 edition (1 Feb. 2013)
  • English
  • 3
  • Health, Family & Lifestyle

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  • By bookworm on 25 April 2017

    For many years I have struggled with intimite relationships and picked emotionally unavailable people, and didn't understand why, when all I wanted was to be able to feel settled. This book has really helped me to understand myself better and with that I am hoping that I can change my pattern. It is well written and has the right balance with examples, as some books can be too heavy on stories about othera, this one isn't which allows the reader to reflect on thier own experiences rather than imagining too many other people's lives. I'm really glad I found it.

  • By louise on 17 August 2014

    Best book I've ever read! Simple & understandable, makes perfect sense.

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